Rajesh, an IIM graduate, coming from a very humble background, earning six digit salary per month, having absolute clarity about where he wants to be in life, 27 years of age, an eligible and smart bachelor, things going quite well… What else does one aspire for? Wouldn’t the parents be happy for having a child with such good accomplishments? This is success indeed.
Alas! Not. Because…
Rajesh is afraid of getting into the loo… It may be unbelievable, but true!
Rajesh came to meet my yoga master sometime back seeking solution to his condition.
He was stressed not due to work load at office, but due to health reasons. He complains of bleeding each time he passes out faeces. On diagnosis, it was identified that there are ulcers in his colon and it is damaged very badly. He had very poor eating habits for close to a decade – to achieve academic excellence. While in college he frequently gave long gap between meals apart from regularly skipping breakfast and/or meals. Sleep also has been a casuality. A successful and sought after professional is afraid to get into the loo. Yes… it is a Paradox ?!?
He had to quit his job and take complete rest for six months. He is now slowly working towards getting back to normalcy…
This is a common denominator for most youngsters of the current generation. Everyone wants to achieve. Psychologists classify such people as “A” type personality. This is one of the symptoms or outcomes of being “A” type. Excessive stress and such approach is leading to increasing incidence of colon and intestinal cancers, more so among men, claim oncology experts.
This lifestyle is more prevalent once children reach class nine or ten. The same intensifies on entering prestigious institutions like IITs, IIMs and the likes. They get so much used to that kind of life-style, the trend is carried to their professional life as well. Select few are fortunate enough to not fall into this kind of lifestyle trap. The effect of poor lifestyle on physical and hence mental and emotional health is very trivial in the initial stages. The compounding power of money is taught in the school, but they fail to mention that the same principle applies to health as well.
Is academic excellence alone the deciding factor for success in life ?!?
The idea is not a thumbs down to academic excellence, but to give it the right position, in the overall excellence in life. The idea is also to understand the purpose of education – which should be man making and life-fulfilling. It is definitely not simply literary or intellectual understanding about scientific facts and figures.
In pursuit of success (Read: money) many like Rajesh, increasingly ignore one or more of the following – health, relationships, ethics, values, environment, etc., In Shiv Khera’s best seller “YOU CAN WIN” he describes eight wealthiest individuals who ended their life in a pathetic manner. Instances like Rajesh, which we come across more commonly these days, also stand testimony to the fact – financial success is not true success.
Ancient Indian Wisdom professes, goal of life is to achieve wealth and security (Artha), enjoy rightful pleasures (Kama) in a harmonious manner (Dharma) and remain free from pain and stress (Moksha). The focus here is on the term harmonious manner.
Harmony is first be achieved at the individual level and then extended to the societal level. Individual victory leads to collective or inter-personal victory. At the individual level there needs to be harmony between intentions, thoughts, words and actions. The head, heart and hands need to integrate. One need to learn this as part of the education system.
To be Happily Successful in life
- we need to learn how to balance various roles in life. Prestigious qualifications and academic excellence aids like a booster, but not a necessity.
- we need to plan and prepare for our future, rather than planning our future. We have no clue as to how things around will turn out to be.
Stories like Rajesh… stimulated us to device an intense and holistic life-skills program “Jiva Vigyan”.
Taking a leaf out of this program we have developed several short term programs. One among them is “JUST YOU” a two day residential workshop to help youngsters who are starting off in life (18 to 30 years) build a perspective about life, open up their thoughts on all relevant directions, build clarity and
“PLAN FOR THEIR FUTURE”, rather than “PLANNING THEIR FUTURE”
What are the choices you are making?
How informed are you in making your choices?
How discrete are you in making your choices?
How long-standing are your choices?
A Happily Successful person is one who makes the RIGHT CHOICES, before exercising his WILL over the choices.